I spent 3 hours helping build sets yesterday. The students and parents were great. But it was not forgotten by me the only reason I was there because Caleb was not. Earlier in the day Asa helped out at a fundraising car wash. Without Caleb's smiling face and comic relief.
It is OK to tell us stories and things you remember about Caleb. He is on our mind and in our hearts so you need not worry that you are bringing up a painful subject. He brought the world joy and that is how we are learning to remember him has. I am choosing not to focus on the last day of his life. But to focus on the wonderful memories he left us with and the loving spirit he carried with him and gave freely of.
I give each one of you permission to give Asa extra love and tender support right now. She is a mother who lost her oldest child in a tragic way. Hug her, cry with her. I know people mean well when they say how strong she is. But that sentiment denies her sharing the very real struggle of loss and pain she feels.
Where she is trying to figure out how to get through the next patient visit giving of compassion and empathy. When she is the one needing of those things. Encouragement is great and it is needed. But the real Asa is not strong right now. Compassion, sympathy and empathy are much more important right now. I hope what I am saying makes sense.... Because no matter what...
We love and appreciate you all!
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