Asa and I have been talking to people who have lived through / studied this issue. Parents, please do not make the mistake of thinking that talking to your kids about suicide, will somehow plant the seed of an idea that was not there originally. Kids need to process, talk about, have a safe place to ask hard questions. It is kind of like the conversation you have with your kids about sex. Keep it ongoing, keep asking, keep informing. Do not let little comments go by. If they make a flippant comment about hurting themselves, followed by,"Come on Mom, I would never, I am only joking." Do not ignore that.
Telling your kids how much they are loved, while important, does not factor a great bit in the decision to kill themselves. Let them know that their pain is temporary. Let them know there are many different resources to help It does not matter were you start. Your family doctor. Mental health professional. School counselor or a member of the clergy.
I am sorry to say this, beware of the last group telling you that prayer and believing in healing is enough. A pastor never told us that but I have heard it taught from the pulpit many times. Do both those things fervently. Pray, believe, and over all have faith. That God will send you the proper help. Then immediately go and seek out that help.
Anyone that says, oh, it's just a phase. I was sad as a teenager, I got over it. Do not, I repeat, do not ignore that small, still voice inside you. Telling you your kid is not being truthful about their feelings. And teenagers, If someone comes to you speak up! Tell an adult.
Suicides can come in groups, copycats, These next months are crucial. Stay vigilant. Stay prayerful. Keep your hearts, eyes and ears open. I love you all.
And parents, if you are concerned about somebody, REACH OUT to Asa or myself. We will gladly listen to your story.
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